"Take Charge of
Your Thinking"
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Many motivated women suffer from high degrees of anxiety. We worry
about our families, our jobs, our pets, our to-do lists, our friends,
the future, the past, the present, and anything else that crosses our
minds. Attempting to sleep at night, we will replay everything over and
over again, like sentinels guarding against possible disappointment,
heartache, and adversity.
While often annoying, anxiety is not all bad. Let's face it. Couch
potatoes usually do not suffer from anxiety disorders, unless the
anxiety has truly taken over and induced paralysis. Usually, our
anxious thoughts fuel our motivation, and we get things done. However,
with too much anxiety we become overwhelmed, exhausted, and resentful.
We wonder why the other people in our lives do not feel as responsible
as we do and often complain that all the work somehow falls into our
not-so-eagerly awaiting laps.
So how do we use our anxiety to produce positive results while
maintaining control over its negative effects? One of the best ways I
know is to learn to manage our minds. If we follow these steps, we'll
be well on our way to fantastic results.
1. Become students of our own thoughts. This first step involves just
noticing our thinking patterns without judging them.
2. As thoughts pass through our minds, we can realize that we don't
have to grab on to them. We can allow them to be very temporary guests.
3. Imagine two walls. On one side, picture thoughts, people, and events
that trigger anxious feelings. On the other side, imagine all the happy
events and memories in our lives. Both the negative and the positive
consistently co-exist in the world. Decide now to spend more time
glancing at the wall containing things that contribute to feelings of
happiness, serenity, and a sense of well-being.
4. Recognize that we can't control the people and events in our lives,
but we certainly can control where we place our attention.
5. Notice our self talk. What we say to ourselves matters!
6. Spend five minutes each day paying attention to our bodily
sensations. Run through our physical feelings from our head to our
toes. This temporarily stops the endless chatter in our minds and
grounds us in the present moment.
7. Make friends with our anxiety. Instead of fighting it, be curious
about its good intentions in our lives. What is it trying to tell us?
Do we need to slow down? Take a walk? Write in a journal? Change
directions? Get more information?
8. Let it become our trusted advisor, while realizing that we have the
ultimate say in how we live our lives.
Copyright © 2008 by Holly A. Cox, L.C.P.C., C.D.C.®
About the Author
Holly Cox is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, a Certified
Dream Coach®, and a Certified Dream Coach Group
Leader®. She is committed to helping women design and maintain
"dream-come-true" lives. Sign up for Holly's "Transform Your Life"
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Enjoy
your life,
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