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Approach anxiety has got to be one of the most common problems for many
men in todays society when it comes to picking up women. Once this fear
has gone there is nothing stopping a guy picking up any girl he chooses
whenever he wants to. All it then takes is to learn a few canned
routines and off you go, improving along the way.
So what is "approach anxiety"? In simple terms approach anxiety is the
irrational fear of approaching women. When I say "irrational" I mean
that there is no real basis for men to react in this way when they want
to approach a girl. Yes, they may have had a bad experience once where
a girl had rejected them and ever since they have a problem with
relationships in general but it is my belief that this fear is all down
what we 'associate' to having a relationship with a girl.
What do I mean by this? Let me explain. If a guy was once rejected by a
girl, publicly or otherwise, then that guy could then 'associate' a
feeling of pain and rejection to either meeting a women, trusting a
woman or maybe having a relationship with her. There is only one way of
destroying this limiting belief and that is by facing your fear and
developing a 'thick skin' so to speak.
Lets look at this more closely. How do we develop a "thick skin"? The
simple answer is to get rejected more. "What?!? But 'aint we trying to
avoid approach anxiety here??" No, we are not. We are going to deal
with the problem, not avoid it. The only way to destroy approach
anxiety is to approach more women and if you get rejected just take it
on the chin, smile and move on to the next girl.
Listen, every guy who has ever been successful with women has been
rejected many, many times guaranteed! They just learn to deal with it
and move on. That's why now you can watch PUA's approaching and opening
20 sets a night in the a club or bar easily. Obviously they have the
skill set to back them up and the confidence to pull it off but they
had to learn this too. I was reading the other day about one of
Europe's best pick up artists having never even kissed a girl until age
21!
This is what I want you to do and I promise you that you will be free
of approach anxiety in no time. I want you to go out at least once a
week and just practice opening up sets. Any sets. If there's no one who
catches your eye, so what!? Open them anyway. All we want is practice.
Being sociable and talkative as a matter of course will greatly boost
your confidence. You need to be opening at least 20 sets a week. Just
open, make polite convo for a short time then make your exit. Thats it.
Obviously, god forbid, if you actually find your having fun chatting to
a group of girls continue on. Who knows, you might like it?
Try it. Open 20 sets a week for a period of around a month or two and
you will find your approach anxiety will, if not totally disappear,
diminish greatly.
About the Author
Kyle O'Callahan is an established author with a passion for the art of
seduction and pick up skills
Kyle has recently produced and launched a product designed specifically
to rid men of appraoch anxiety and sexual confidence issues. To learn
more about "Seduction Audios" stop by the new site at http://www.SeductionAudios.com
Enjoy
your life,
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